Getting Ahead: ‘Both sides of the issue’


I am part of the City Planning Commission and many times we experience people that see the same issue from different perspectives.

One person comes in to get something done on a property, and others will come in to contest the thing that the property owner wants to do. I usually find that there is a common thread in most of these arguments; both parties are convinced that they are right. Usually there is a written law or predetermined objective that prevails in these cases, but it is not always that easy when working with people having other types of problems.

When working with people that have marriage problems, I see very plainly that there are always two sides to the story. Two people look at the same problem and see it totally different. There are times that one or the other might admit to wrongdoing but it is always something that is on the surface and is not the root of the problem. It is as if their problem was a box with a right and left side.

One person is on one side of the box and the other party on the opposite side and they are looking at something different. I find that each person is just living out what they are seeing on their side of the problem.

Could it be that we are not willing to walk to the other side of the issue to see what someone else is seeing? Or do we both just need to change sides? What would it be worth if there was a manual that told us exactly what to do to solve these problems?

These and other life questions will be addressed Sunday morning as “The Gathering Place Family” meets in the Washington High School Library for Bible Study at 9:30 and in the gymnasium at 10 a.m. for our Pre-Service Connection where we enjoy coffee, juice and donuts. Our Worship Service and Children’s Church then begins at 10:30. Come at 7 p.m. and be part of our Wednesday night Bible Study and Children’s Ministry on the third floor above Trends at 120 W. Court St. in Washington Court House.

By John G. Pfeifer

Religion Columnist