Never underestimate the dependency you’ve created towards your current situation. We ideally think that if one big thing happens for us (financial/relationship breakthrough) the dominoes of good fate will fall in order. It is just not true this way.
Our transformations happen through small, often elusive, acts of good will that we have already been practicing. The difference will show at the point we recognize those actions and concurrently believe in their impact in the environment we live in.
This is not as hard as you may think, but it still presents a challenge. We say that “I have to see it before I believe it.” It works the other way around. We have to believe it in order for us to see it, and in seeing, we do not see in the sense of the word.
We look at something and object impulsively. Saying that what we did see was not authentic and then work to disprove its merit. If a person puts in hours of hard work into losing weight, it then is almost automatic that the social reaction is small outward support and an intrinsic curiosity to doubt the sustainability of that person’s effort. Simply put, we don’t really believe in each other, and this is the dependency we’ve created as a community.
The number one thing that we do is question how long something will last. Rather than being happy for something great happening at a given moment, regardless of how it came about, we’ll become grumpy over it because of doubt in its ability to endure a lifetime.
I always intend these articles to be fitness related, and they are, but I also like them to spill over into all dimensions of life. This is what is supposed to make what I do as a personal trainer fun, but really it becomes a myriad of facing judgment for the perception of what other people think I am supposed to be doing for others, and it spoils the art of helping somebody else learn.
Exercise is not for anything but for the enjoyment of exercising. It does happen to have health benefits, but those benefits are not just on a biological level (Our appearance). They also happen on a social, psychological, spiritual, or emotional level. It’s not just about getting to looking better, but also about authentically urging to feel better about ourselves.
If you know somebody who is working to improve their lifestyle, or you are somebody who is making that attempt, give them or yourself the recognition deserved. Reward it with a compliment. Those random acts of kindness go so far along in the progress of an individual, and they also have immediate impacts in restructuring the behavior of a community. It works to build a better living environment and the circumstances we surround ourselves in become less stressful. A priceless commodity.
Trey Tompkins writes fitness columns for the Record-Herald.